Sunday, July 02, 2017

Dressing To Impress Is My Secret Weapon




Top - Next
Skirt - Mint Velvet
Socks - Penneys / Primark
Shoes - Adidas 
Bag = Penneys / Primark


I'm not oblivious to the fact that my definition of "casual" at worst is smart casual according to some people. I've had friends and even boyfriends make comments on my inability to dress like a normal casual person.


"I am being casual" I often protest always with a chuckle because even I know I'm not. And it's not like I don't know what they mean by it, I do. Oh what I'd give to be able to wear a pair of jeans with a nice top and not go overboard with accessories and a chunky pair of heels.


"A pair of leggings and a nice top" pfft...as if that's possible without the top being oversized and either chunky knitwear or a ridiculous combination of colours.






For as long as I can remember dressing well has been a lesson passed unto me by my grandparents back home in Ghana,  my mother and every African community I've encountered, you dress to impress. It's like a statement, you slay your outfits to demand the respect of others. My sense of style and desire to always look my best is an attribute I believe many minorities also possess.


Take for example Buzzfeed's and Try Guy Eugene who is admired for his ability to dress and look fabulous in anything and everything ( and his hair of course). The need for your outside attire to echo the respect you have for yourself and want others to have for you is deeply rooted in many cultures e.g Asian culture and African culture. From the widely accepted surgery culture in the likes of Korea, Japan and China to the flamboyant and vibrant dressing cultures of countries such as India, Nigeria, Ghana your outward appearance can be an advantage to express wealth and demand respect.






I didn't live through Sunday mornings with my mum forcing me to iron my clothes and make sure my colours and prints look on point to throw it all out the window now that I can dress in whatever I like.


Admittedly there are times I may be over dressed for a situation but generally I'm only dressing up a step. I draw so much confidence from my clothes, from gym gear to hella fancy floor length gowns. My mama and grandmama have armed me with a weapon wielded by all minority races I believe.


I can't speak for an entire country or minority but dressing well is my way off asserting some sort of authority through my clothes. When I look 'presentable' as my mother would put it, I feel as though form the outside at least, no one can pick a fault with me allowing me to be able to focus on energy on other priorities.







Of course there is the negative side of this where having such an attribute instilled into you from such an early age can sprout insecurities of their own to the point where it can be damaging for your self-esteem but I don't want to talk about it today.  


Instead I wanted to share the sense of confidence and power that I draw from wielding my secret weapon of style, even if  M thinks I look like an old woman in my outfit. That's the other perk of dressing to impress when you feel good in what you are wearing, you really don't give much of a toss what others think...unless it's really bad that is.


I could continue on to list out how you too can dress to impress but hey, what my mama and grandmama taught me, that's a family secret, shhhh. Instead I want to pose to you one question, and feel free to answer below in the comments.


What is your most confident inducing outfit? 





This skirt you see here in this post is from Mint Velvet and is one of my favourite pieces in my wardrobe, be it work, night out or a casual shopping trip with my sister and friend  like how I spent my day today, I love wearing it for that little extra confidence boost.


Let me know what outfits empower you!


Till next time
xxx

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